Show the love to yourself. You are important and your health and happiness depend on your responsibility to take care of yourself. Give yourself permission to take time to assess your needs. Have you even taken the time to know what your needs are? You are an expert at caring for the needs of others but if you have depleted your compassionate deposits it is you who will pay the price within the quality of your life.
Love does heal, love fosters connections and love breeds more love. Giving of yourself when you are running on empty causes resentment and frustration which will manifest one way or another in your health and happiness.
Take little steps each day for YOU. You have to feel your are worth it to give yourself the space to change and to prioritize it in your life.
Create a sacred space just for you. One busy mother of young children used a colored stop sign on her room to teach her children. Red meant do not disturb and green was OK. Significant others need to understand this as well and respect your needs for space. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Keep your promises to yourself and ask for support. YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Denial is a powerful thing and until we bring it to our consciousness where we become aware we stay in an illusion only fooling ourselves.
I had no idea it was so powerful until I started to really open my eyes and see the reality of things. How could my perceptions get so distorted of myself and the world. Waking up takes times and courage to see, really see. My first experience with denial on a large scale was about 20 years ago on my ranch. There was a lot and I mean a lot, of logging going on. We still had trees and some areas were re-seeded.
The pine trees started to die and go brown. There is a mountain in front of the ranch and I watched as it slowly turned rust red across the horizon. Took about some years for the gravity of the situation to really sink in. I was concerned about the trees on the ranch and so
contacted a forester to come have a look. He told me that the pine beetle was only attacking the old pine. It so happens we were standing in a stand of re-planted young pines and you can actually hear the beetle gnawing inside the tree. I looked at him and thought to myself, “does he think I am stupid?!” I then noticed more and more. One day I was driving home and noticed these strange netting contraptions hanging from several trees near the road. Years later I learned that the logging companies had hung beetle bait to lure the beetles to that stand of forest so they could get a lower price for stumpage and clear cut the stand. I met the young forester that was part of the plan and he could not live with himself and left the profession. A lot of people now are leaving professions that promote the brain washing of large money making corporations.
I then noticed the environmental impact on the animals and especially the birds that no longer came. They were gone. I can remember way back in the 1960’s my 11th grade biology teacher telling us that if we didn’t make changes soon these would be the consequences. We are now all living with the consequences. Another slam dunk for me was flying over Bangkok for the first time and seeing the huge brown slurry coming from the river into the ocean. The first time we were there the beach and water was pristine. Two years later we went back and there was no way I was going into that ocean. It is a heart break. So here we are 50 years later and we are still in this mass denial. We buy bottled water and soon we will be buying air to breathe. If the money corporations would grow a conscience they would pour their billions of dollars into healthy energy technology rather than fracking the earth.
On a positive note the small voices are getting louder and louder. My sister the environmental activist and I mean activist, just called because her group succeeded in saving 91% of the forest slated for development. It to 8 years of perseverance. Way to go little sis. We all need to wake up and just look around and change our way of thinking.
The other good news is that people are waking up to the pharmaceutical mess our tradition medicine has succumbed to. The new will of the people is growing stronger and stronger evidenced by the number of options available to eat healthy and believing we are what we eat. People are taking responsibility for their health and one of my favourite channels is FMTV.com. Have an open mind and take a look. It has not been quite 2 months since I woke up to my reality and the results have been miraculous. Wish I woke up a lot sooner.
Change is coming and I pray not too slowly.