Show the love to yourself. You are important and your health and happiness depend on your responsibility to take care of yourself. Give yourself permission to take time to assess your needs. Have you even taken the time to know what your needs are? You are an expert at caring for the needs of others but if you have depleted your compassionate deposits it is you who will pay the price within the quality of your life.
Love does heal, love fosters connections and love breeds more love. Giving of yourself when you are running on empty causes resentment and frustration which will manifest one way or another in your health and happiness.
Take little steps each day for YOU. You have to feel your are worth it to give yourself the space to change and to prioritize it in your life.
Create a sacred space just for you. One busy mother of young children used a colored stop sign on her room to teach her children. Red meant do not disturb and green was OK. Significant others need to understand this as well and respect your needs for space. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Keep your promises to yourself and ask for support. YOU ARE WORTH IT.
As I am now living in the afternoon of life I observe and listen a lot more. In my 30’s I was on a power trip, in my 40’s I was reaching my lofty goals, in my 50’s I really started to reflect and now in my 60’s I see, hear, and learn.
My oldest daughter is a hamster. She is going so fast on the wheel of life I am not sure how long her legs can keep up the pace she has set for herself. When I look back, I can cast no stones as I was exactly like that. Thus all comes full circle as she retorts: “Where do you think I learned it from!”
Flash forward to the future and I can now clearly hear my mother saying: “You have to learn to pace yourself.” My daugher’s latest goal; as she is works part time, raises a 3 yr. old, runs a business, in the middle of selling their house and moving, is now training as a Road Warrior for the cancer ride between Vancouver and Seattle in a couple of weeks.
But such are the adult stages of life.
My youngest daughter is a turtle, an introvert and completely content with a much slower pace of life..Ahhhh! The strangest thing about that is she has always had her own pace and to a hamster it can be very irritating. She also started collecting turtles at an early age and now believe it or not, she is married to a sheep farmer’s son in the little town of Turtleford!
So now that I approach learning to fly I can take a higher view of the bigger picture and see more. Such is wisdom as it is earned on the journey of life.
So I ask you – ARE YOU A HAMSTER OR A BIRD??